Pain = Frustration. In chronic pain this frustration is usually intense. When you are frustrated and angry you are disconnected from what is immediately in front of you. Your awareness goes to zero. Lack of awareness is the essence of abuse. Although you may not see it that way your children are seeing it much differently. When you are angry your children who are completely dependant on you have no control and they are fearful. At a minimum you have ceased to become the source of peace, joy and happiness within your family. There is a high chance you are not volunteering to be their coach or taking an active role in their lives. However it is manifested, chronic pain takes a terrible toll on those close to you. I have several beginning suggestions that I have used with success with my patients:
You need your family for your support. Do not become a living weapon with them being your target.